Love is independent of attachment

  Question: If I am going to have a baby soon, am I going to build more karma? Because I know I am going to have an emotional attachment, or how can I deal with this situation, how can I give 100 percent affection without being emotionally attached? Answer: Love is your basic nature. You […]

Do we accumulate karma if we scold loved ones or try to correct them when they do something wrong?

Question: Do we accumulate karma if we scold loved ones or try to correct them when they do something wrong? Answer: Again Karmas are not caused out of the action or thought, but Karmas are caused by the attachment/emotion associated with the action or thought. Therefore, if you scold a child to prevent him from […]

The trap of Maaya

Question: Dear Ektaji, why do we respect only greatness? Why do we set goals by comparing with bigger and better only? However our benchmarks of Greatness keep changing as we ourselves evolve, and we keep chasing one or other desires. What is a right way to look upon people, their work and its importance, and […]

Marriage or Seva?

Question: I want to do seva to progress spiritually. I feel I will progress much more if I were at my master’s feet than being at home. I also do not want to get married, but my mother wants me to get married.  I am in a quandary. Should I focus on my spiritual path, dropping my […]

Yardstick to measure spiritual progress

Question: What is the yardstick to measure my spiritual progress? How do I know if I am progressing spiritually? Answer: The yardstick to measure your spiritual progress is: ‘Equanimity + Awareness’. *Equanimity = [Internal Non-Reaction + External Non-Reaction] in any situation come what may. [Sambhava] *Awareness = Being in the present moment at all times. [Sakshi […]

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

Question: I have a very difficult marriage and a temperamental husband who drinks and blames me for his drinking. I am lonely and in pain. I understand this knowledge. I know everything is temporary but I still crave for a good supportive husband and companion. What do I do? How can I get a good […]

To Facebook or not?

Question:   With the advent of social media and uncontrolled use of it, we have added immensely to the list of Raagas and Dveshas especially on viewing people’s profiles, photos or posting messages.  In a very subtle way, it impacts the mind and adds to my cravings & aversions silently. To fix this, I quit Facebook […]