JGD Didi, I had a nasty marriage and even nastier divorce in past. I have two adorable children though. I have promised them they will never have any stepfather in their life, that is the reason why I have turned down many instances. I have found myself often thinking marriages are pointless. I wonder is that some kind of fear or my promise? At a point where I couldn’t even differentiate? How to understand this? mind often goes on this trip.
How does it matter if you believe marriage is pointless or you think that it is a promise to your kids so you are making yourself believe that marriage is pointless? Both are illusions. You are now wondering which is a lesser illusion, this or that? It really doesn’t matter dear.
But the true seeker of Gnyana can proclaim this out of his true observation of life whether he has fulfilled all expectations of wealth/relationships/fame/ name or not.
Enough drama we have played in life. Someday we must all drop our costumes and just be real.
Then why do we find it so difficult to be real? Why do we find it so difficult to recognize reality?
That’s because of Maaya! Maaya is that thick covering on the Truth that needs to be unveiled. And mind you, it cannot be unveiled very easily by the mind/body/intellect complex. One has to do Zabardast Purushartha [Intense uncompromising ceaseless effort] to go beyond the mind into the silence of the Being to actually be able to take a step back and observe the illusions of life as ILLUSIONS OF LIFE!
It’s not an easy task. It’s not for the weak ones. We come into the SCHOOL of LIFE to become courageous and stronger by learning lessons from karma. A day comes when the tough lessons shake you. That shake of karma is like an earthquake. One suddenly wakes up and gathers courage to swim his way out of the ocean of illusions. Yes, it is an ocean dear! One wave lashing on you after another. There is no time to stop and think. One is completely engulfed into the water of Maaya, wave after wave and there are hardly any moments when the clear sky is visible to him/her.
It requires ceaseless effort and intense & inflexible commitment to your own spiritual growth to see the clear sky and remain afloat. The courageous one manages this very easily. The question now is, ‘Are you courageous?’
If yes, pull yourself out of these illusions of ‘WHY this?’ & ‘WHY not that?’ Work on bringing yourself closer to the Being. Get into ZABARDAST PURUSHARTHA of piercing through the veil of Maaya by dropping all illusionary questions that the mind brings up. Let the light of Gnyana guide you on this path. You won’t ever feel lost with Gnyana!
Loads of blessings for a successful spiritual journey!